Readers' email questions(December 2009)

Hi! Here are two questions sent in by readers(December 2009). Please feel free to send in your email questions to bodypulse@ymail.com. Thank you.

Dear Naz,

I have recently tried using EFT to help me with my insomnia but so far there has been no signs of improvement. I have seen a therapist for about an hour and I have tried the therapy every day(about 15 minutes per day) for the past 3 weeks. Should I try to to combine EFT with other therapy?

Anna Gomez, IT executive, Singapore.

Dear Anna,

I would recommend that you try EFT for another couple of weeks at least as although most people would definitely see results within 2 weeks(some even feel almost immediate results!), it differs from person to person. I do not ahve enough information on the history of your insomnia problem but if you have been suffering from it for 6 months or more, chances are you might need more time to see some results. Please do not give up on the therapy as EFT is a very powerful method to solve any problem. But of course, feel free to combine it with other therapies such as hypnotherapy and herbal remedies. Let us know how you are progressing. Great health to you.

Naz



Dear Naz,

I was in a relationship for 2 years with someone whom I really thought was special but unfortunately, things had not gone as planned. We are starting to argue a lot(even about trivial matters) and I am starting to have some doubts over his committment to this relationship. I feel like he is taking me for granted and I am not being appreciated enough. I am now in a dilemma. I really like him very much and would like to carry on the relationship but on the other hand, there are some doubts circling in my head about his committment and sincerity in our relationship. What should I do?

Samantha Lee, student, Singapore

Dear Samantha,

From your email, I can see that you would really like to keep a hold of the relationship but is not sure either he stands on the relationship. It would be very helpful to have a heart to heart talk about these recent problems that you have been experiencing. It would be such a pity to throw away a 2 year relationship over some problems(although I do not know the actual severity of these problems). But it also depends on both of you. It would be no use to continue trying so hard to build the relationship when one party does not have the heart to continue. It would only lead to more problems and heartbreak. So, you it is very important that you ascertain if he is really keen on building up/staying in the relationship. If he is aso keen on building up the relationship, he should also be willing to open up and discuss and hopefully overcome any obstacle that comes between the both of you. There would be lots of obstacles in any realtionship, but there's where the true strength the love that you have for each other shine through. Do not give up hope and always try as far as possible to communicate all the time to overcome these problems, no matter how serious or trivial they may be. Remember that this could be the special person that you were meant to spend the rest of your life with so do not lose heart. Learn from all those incidents and grow your realtionship into one that would last a lifetime.

Naz